A former headmaster this week called for a “Schools Wellbeing League Table”. Should schools prioritise “wellness” which includes challenging and stretching students, also builds character and helps them to perform better? What do you think? Would you pay more attention to that than Exams Tables?

There are 11 INDICATORS OF WELLNESS. Today, and for the next four Thursdays #thursdaythoughts, we reflect on what would help children improve their mental health and wellbeing.


How can they withstand stresses in their environment & thrive in situations where they might otherwise flounder e.g. transition from primary to secondary school, exam pressures, being ready for university or being bullied etc?


The first 4 Wellness Indicators are : Structure, Parent-Child Relationships, Consequences, Strong Relationships. #childrensresilience


  1. Structure


  • Children want a reasonable amount of structure. It convinces them that their parents love them.


  • The structure parents provide children needs to make sense to the children themselves. It needs to fit with where children live, the dangers they experience, and the values that their families hold.


  • Children are okay with being told no when what they want puts them in real danger.


  • As often as possible, children need to hear yes and be encouraged to take responsibility for themselves and others.


  1. Consequences


  • Our children want the security of knowing there are reasonable

consequences to their actions.


  • Our children want to be shown how to fix their mistakes without using violence or bullying others that are weaker than they are.


  • Our children need to be reminded they are part of their families, schools, and communities, and are accountable for the harm they cause others.


  • Our children need quick and thoughtful discipline that models empathy, not harsh punishment that teaches them how to hurt others.

3. Parent-Child Relationship


  • Our children want to know that their problems are theirs to solve, and that their parents are there to help them when they’re needed.


  • Our children really do want connections with their parents, but those connections will look very different at each age and stage of development.


  • Our children appreciate the effort their parents make to connect with them. Parents need to remember what they’ve done right in the past and do more of the same in the future.


4. Strong Relationships

Our children live in interdependent worlds that bring them the possibility of lots of supportive relationships. Our job as parents is to help them nurture these connections.


  • Our children need to feel they are needed and important. They need people in their lives who make them feel this way.


  • Adults remain important to children throughout their childhood and adolescence.


  • Our children need adults and peers who can help them build bridges back into their communities when their behaviour has made them outsiders.


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